Is summer on the way is it holiday time.

I think this post needs to be a lot lighter in content than my last blog as being over 50 is not all gloom and doom it has it good points. I thank my lucky stars that I have got this far in life, I am relatively fit and I have two beautiful children who I am very proud of.
Today the sun has been out and that always makes us feel better especially if it is the weekend and a bank holiday weekend at that hopefully that means summer is here or not far off.
We have had one holiday this year in January which was a bit to early really but it was very nice we went on a cruse and  we were some of the youngest ones on the boat which was nice, we had a really good time though. It will seem like a long while until we have our next one as we have nothing booked at all at the moment I think we need some days out or weekends away probably that would be nice I will have to look into that I think.

That Taboo subject.

Death - It is the one thing that is inevitable for us all but it is the one thing that is usually taboo why is that do you think because we like to think we will live forever or because if we don't talk about it it will not happen!
So how many of you have spoken about this with your family any of you? We all expect to get to a ripe old age before we die but as we all know this is not always the case. We assume we will have time to sort things out but non of us know when  we will die; will it be today, tomorrow or many years away so we should really let our families know of your wishes. Being over 50 I have partly spoken to mine in that they must make sure I am dead before doing anything. They can use any peace of me for donation and after that I don't mind what they do I have not however made a Will but it is on my 'todo' list hopefully for this year. Live for today you never know what will be around the corner.

Caring for parents

I was talking to a friend this week and we discussing parents and the fact that, as far as we know, no one has written a book about how to deal with looking after ageing parents and what is on offer for them.
My Dad passed away last year but before that we had to sort out carers for him and dealing with Social services is an experience all of its own! For the last 6 months of his life (we didn't know it would only be 6 months at the time) he went into a care home as he was getting violent with his dementia and my Mum couldn't cope anymore. His dementia was at the stage that sometimes he would know you and sometimes he didn't but one of the things that really upset him was that he was separated from his wife (my Mum) and he would get so upset at not being with her. But then the next time you went he would be sat next to one of the ladies in the home and he would telling you that she was a special friend!! It was really difficult to deal with and for me very upsetting until I got used to it.
Talking to friends who have ageing parents is really helpful as we can bounce ideas off each other and get information on how to do things or where to get things but it would be really helpful to have a booklet about what they can get and where to go and what options there are. Perhaps I should have a think about that one.

What is the next step

3 March 2014 - This week our youngest has started her first proper job after leaving university so that means that both our babies have gone out into the big wide world. What does this mean for us now I wonder ? Time for us, new hobby perhaps we will have to give it some thought.

I have been really busy in my defence I have got a part time job which I think is a good thing. The job is only part time but for once it is a job that is better for the older person rather than someone fresh from school or college who has little experience in the delicate dealings of people. We did have an interesting time on holiday this year as we went on a cruse and were amazed to be some of the younger travellers on the boat. I would say the average age of most passengers were 60 to 70 year olds. It isn't the first cruse we have been on and it may not  be the last but cruising is not something I would want to do every holiday however most people you meet on these holidays have been on every boat, with every cruse liner going which I found very amusing. I will say though we did meet some wonderful people and had a lot of laughs.